Understanding the space you're moving into
Before packing anything, get exact dimensions of the room or apartment. Most assisted living rooms are significantly smaller than a home bedroom. Memory care rooms in particular tend to be compact. Knowing the dimensions prevents the heartbreak of moving furniture that won't fit.
Ask the community:
- What furniture is already provided?
- Are residents allowed to bring their own furniture?
- Is there a dresser, nightstand, and closet already in place?
- What are the electrical and wall-hanging policies?
What to bring
Personal comfort items
- Favorite blanket or quilt — familiar textures are especially grounding for memory care residents
- Family photos (framed, not in glass if possible — safer)
- A few meaningful decorative items that make the space feel like theirs
- Favorite books, magazines, or hobby supplies
- Personal music player or radio with familiar playlists
Clothing
- 7–10 days of clothing — communities do laundry 1–2 times per week
- Easy-on, easy-off items — velcro closures, elastic waistbands, slip-on shoes
- Label everything with their name (permanent marker or iron-on labels)
- Comfortable, non-slip slippers and sturdy walking shoes
- One or two dressy outfits for community events
Personal care items
- Preferred toiletries (the community may provide basics, but personal products matter)
- Electric shaver or hair dryer if used
- Reading glasses and a backup pair
- Hearing aids with extra batteries
Practical items
- Small TV if desired (check community policy on size)
- Phone — and a simple one if smartphone use has become difficult
- Medication list (for community staff records)
- Insurance cards and ID (kept by staff in many communities)
What to leave behind — and what to do with it
Most of a lifetime's worth of belongings won't make the move. That's one of the hardest parts of this transition — for your loved one and for the family. Here's a practical approach:
- Sentimental items with family significance: Distribute to family members who want them, with your loved one's involvement where possible. Let them give things away themselves — it's more meaningful than having things taken after a move.
- Furniture, household goods, and general belongings: Estate sale. A good estate sale company can handle this quickly and professionally, leaving the home ready to list.
- Items with real value (art, jewelry, collectibles): Have these appraised before the estate sale. A reputable estate sale company will price them correctly — but know what you have.
- Papers, documents, and files: Don't let these go to an estate sale. Sort through carefully. Shred what's not needed; keep anything financial, legal, or medical.
- What doesn't sell: Most estate sale companies coordinate donation of unsold items. Some families choose a specific charity.
Give yourself time. The sorting and clearing process takes longer than almost every family expects — emotionally and practically. Build at least 2–3 weeks into your timeline for this, and don't try to do it alone.